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Why do we eat, drink, or shop to feel better?Why isn’t a hug or a walk in nature enough? For some people, the answer is simple: their brain works differently. What Is an Addicted Brain Addiction isn’t a lack of willpower — it’s a reorganization of the brain.It alters the main circuits responsible for pleasure, control, and stress: Reward Pathway (mesolimbic system): becomes dysregulated. Natural rewards like movement, connection, or success no longer bring enough pleasure — only the addictive substance or behavior does. Prefrontal Cortex: activity decreases in areas [...]

There are two kinds of work women do in families — often without naming it and rarely receiving recognition for it: domestic work and relational work.One is visible, the other is felt. Both exhaust, both sustain, and both shape the quality of family life more than most people realize. Domestic Work — The Logistics of Daily Life This is everything that keeps a household running: cleaning, cooking, laundry, grocery shopping, meal planning, bills, appointments, organizing the children’s schedules.It’s repetitive, unpaid, and constantly underestimated — yet it consumes both time and [...]

Let’s get this out of the way: therapy is not just for people who are “not okay.” You don’t need to be falling apart, crying every day, or going through a crisis to benefit from therapy. In fact, some of the most powerful transformations happen quietly—on an ordinary Tuesday, in a small room (or a video call), with someone who is trained to hold space for your truth to come out. So, who is therapy for? It’s for the people who’ve achieved a lot but feel strangely empty inside. It’s [...]

It seems that the world is in an advanced state of collective regression, where repressed aggressive drives—suppressed for years or even decades—are now desperately seeking an outlet. From a psychoanalytic perspective, we might say we are witnessing a massive activation of Thanatos—the death drive, with all that it implies: destruction, annihilation, a return to zero, and a desperate attempt to regain control through violent acts. When a society becomes increasingly anxious, when fear, insecurity, and distrust in institutions grow, the collective Ego weakens and can no longer mediate between the [...]

Conflict at work is inevitable. But for some of us, even minor disagreements feel threatening or overwhelming. If you find yourself dreading conversations, overreacting to feedback, or avoiding people after a disagreement—chances are, conflict isn't the problem. It's your relationship with it. Here are 8 signs you might be struggling with conflict at work—and how to start shifting the pattern: 1. You Avoid Difficult Conversations Like the Plague You say yes when you want to say no. You agree to things that frustrate you, and you convince yourself it's “not [...]

If you have a trauma history, conflict can feel like war—even in a safe relationship. Here's how and why that happens, and what you can do. 1. Conflict Can Trigger Survival Responses Your brain doesn’t just remember trauma—it relives it. A raised voice, a cold stare, or even a long silence can activate your fight, flight, freeze, or fawn response. You might: Lash out or become defensive Shut down or go numb Feel unsafe even when you are safe 2. You're Not Overreacting—You're Overprotecting Your nervous system learned to stay [...]