Why Do We Get in Our Own Way?
Self-sabotage is a frustrating cycle: you want to change, you start strong, then somehow you find yourself back at square one. Why?
Because your subconscious mind is wired to keep you safe—even if “safe” means staying stuck in old patterns, then so be it.
The Hidden Causes of Self-Sabotage
1️⃣ Fear of Success – What happens if you actually succeed? Will people expect more from you? Will your relationships change? Will you somehow betray your loyalty to your history?
2️⃣ Comfort Zone Addiction – Even painful patterns feel familiar, hence safe, and the brain prefers familiarity and safety over uncertainty.
3️⃣ Unresolved Emotional Conflicts – Often, what we call “self-sabotage” is actually an internal struggle between who we are and who we think we should be or between conflicting basic needs, like the need for love and safety and the need for asserting one’s self.
How to Overcome Self-Sabotage
✅ Get external perspective – you will find your blind spots a lot quicker and you will get valuable tools for change.
✅ Be relentless and astute in self observation.
✅ Identify your limiting beliefs and challenge them.
✅ Make small, incremental changes rather than big, unsustainable ones.
